Most women don’t give a second thought to looking into the mirror and start picking themselves apart verbally. Standing in front of the mirror, trying to squeeze into a pair jeans. Huffing as you say “I really need to lose some weight” or I’m too fat to fit in these. All the while your six or seven your old daughter is sitting on the bed holding a doll, watching you. Hearing every word you say about yourself and your body.
We live in a society where every
magazine, tv show, news program, tells us what we should look like. And I don’t believe it’s directed at just girls and women. I think it’s directed as men as well. Personally I find a curvy woman more attractive than say a skinny model. But I compare my body to the skinny model versus the curvier one. I constantly find that I’m asking myself why I only see myself as pretty when I’m thin. Mind you I’m a size 3, But I can tell you exactly where the 5 extra pounds I put on are.
It’s horrible that I’m obsessed with keeping my rear fitting in the same jeans as five years ago. Or is it? I eat healthy for the most part. No fast food, no junk food except for special occasions and I exercise regularly. And I try to encourage my family to do the same.
There’s a difference in being skinny and being healthy. I think that we all as a whole need to grasp this, for the sake of our children. Especially our daughters. If we continuously pick ourselves apart in front our girls, what do you think is going to be absorbed into their little brains? I’m only pretty if I’m a size 0. I’m only pretty if I have big boobs. I’m only blah blah. The list goes on. It’s time to break the cycle. It’s time that mothers encourage their daughters to live a HEALTHY life and to have HIGH self-esteem and RESPECT for their bodies.
It’s time that we explained to our daughters and our female peers that a size 0 doesn’t constitute beauty. And a size 16 doesn’t constitute ugly and fat.
But we can’t teach our children to have a positive body image if we don’t start believing it ourselves.
So everyday tell yourself something you love about your body rather than looking at the things you hate.
It’s time to love yourself. And your body. For you and for your daughters.