I have a story to share:
Super Mom goes off to save the world (in her own way). She looks flawless as she does it with her hair in waves, on point makeup, and perfectly manicured nails. When she finishes her task of saving the runaway train, she heads into to her 9-5 to earn that paycheck. She skips her hour lunch-break to take super kids to their dentists appointments. Rushes to pick them up from school to the dentist, then from the dentist to baseball (whatever sport) practice and dance. Then in the blink of an eye she picks up/makes dinner, walks the dog, starts laundry, picks up random things around the house, answers work emails, helps kids with homework, gets kids to bed, and gets herself ready to do it all over again tomorrow. Sound exhausting? It sounds fucking exhausting to me. And yet, here we are doing this by the hundreds of thousands. So Greetings to all you super moms out there. To each and everyone of you who put your family and their needs in front of your own. Howdy to those mamas who are exhausted from taking care of sick babies, from taking kids to and from activities while planning out the dinner menu for the following week in your head.
I worked on a research paper for my last semester (oh we go to school too, while working full time, and having a family?!) about the nastiness between women and why it exists. While I’m not going to go into all the information I found, I will say one part I did find incredibly interesting is the fact that our happiness has steadily decreased since the 1970s. We have more rights and opportunities than ever before and yet we’re unhappier. Could it be because we’re overextending ourselves. Y’all, I believe in good time management. I really do. But at some point something has got to give? And you know what’s giving whether we knowingly give it up? Our ability to BE HAPPY! We don’t have the time to be happy. We don’t put ourselves at the top of the list to be happy. We have it in our minds that because we are able to do all these things that we should do all these things and have a nasty habit of making other women feel like shit if they don’t do all these things. I spend some days so tired I run around in circles trying to remember what’s next on my list.
I finally graduated with my bachelors after 17 years. It’s been on of my bucket list items for a LONG time. And now that I’ve finished that, I have freed up a little more time in my life. You know what I’m going to do with those extra hours?? It won’t be signing my kids up for yet another activity. It won’t be making sure every article of clothing is washed, folded, and put up. No, it’s going to be spent being selfish. Completely and utterly selfish. Because I no longer want to sacrifice my sanity or happiness for the unattainable perfect mom/life. I want to strive for the “happy” mom/wife life. So here’s to longer baths, trips alone to the coffee shop, and perhaps a mani pedi here and there. I strongly urge all you amazing beautiful moms to do the same. After all, you cannot fill the cups of others while yours is empty.